It is my firm opinion that anyone who is a single parent should be made to wear a sign. Not all the time obviously, that would be weird… But in certain circumstances. Circumstances such as when I’m eyeing people up. Only then actually.
We’ve had some lovely weather in the last few days, and lovely weather sends children, and their supervising parents, to the playground. Whilst the children are crashing around and squealing in sun-drunk delight their parents amble around watching, occasionally warning the rebellious and catching the clumsy, and generally chatting amongst themselves. I have found, on several of such occasions the attached parent I have found myself chatting amiably to has been a rather attractive man. That’s all good and a bit of light and enjoyable flirting might bounce around. Until the mother of the aforementioned child shows up and then you feel like some sort of hideous husband stalker. Bad times.
So, as right now I am purely enjoying flirting opportunities as they come and go, it doesn’t actually matter. It’s not like I’m looking for casual flirting to develop into anything further, I’m just enjoying the freedom. However, at some point I’m going to want to actually meet someone. Properly. For a some naked fun.
How do I know if they’re single? AND if I find out they’re single, how do I know if they’re interested?!
I haven’t done this for so long, I’ve been in a relationship since I was 23. Before that I was out dancing at weekends, and if you’re a single girl out dancing, the single boys make it damn clear if they’re interested or not. Usually by gracefully jiving up to you and pressing their erections into your hip. But I’m not a single 23 year old now. I’m a child attached 28 year old who doesn’t go out dancing, and if I were to go out dancing, I would need to be up at 6am with my child. I don’t begrudge this, please don’t think I’m moaning that I want to go out dancing and hooking up with boys, because I actually don’t. I did that time in my life, I enjoyed it and I did it with serious enthusiasm, but I don’t want to do that now.
I want to just know if someone is available and interested. Then maybe go out for coffee and a chat. And maybe do that a few times. Maybe have dinner. Maybe, eventually, get to the fabulous naked time I so enjoy. But not yet, and not quickly. AND I don’t want to have to abandon my child night after night in a quest to do it.
The world of being a single parent is very confusing and scary, the love interest side is just one of those confusing and scary parts.
I hope one day I do meet someone who wants to do the same things as me. Who is interested, preferably attractive and employed, and is okay with the fact I’m not going to be wanting to go out dancing all the time. But I don’t know how to recognise those people!
Is there some secret code? Is there a “Hey, I know I have a kid but I’m also available for smooching” sign I don’t know about? Maybe as time goes on I will learn all this stuff. It’s all so new and weird to me right now!